Comments on: Time-Out for Moms & Babies http://heatherivester.com/2006/01/28/time-out-for-moms-babies/ Encouragement for writing parents and for anyone who loves inspiring books for kids Wed, 31 Aug 2011 16:56:18 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Blair http://heatherivester.com/2006/01/28/time-out-for-moms-babies/comment-page-1/#comment-268 Blair Fri, 03 Feb 2006 02:44:17 +0000 http://mom2momconnection.com/?p=218#comment-268 Oh girl I agree with you! A bit of time alone does not harm a child (in a safe environment of course). We started "quiet time" when ours came home from the hospital. It was the same time every day. My son is now 8 and doesn't even flinch when I say "it's quiet time" - he heads to his room for the allotted time to read or play quietly. My 6 year old is the same. Now my 3 and 1 year olds still object but they generally get over it in a matter of minutes lol. I don't know how moms do it without their kids being able to play alone. Quiet time is typically nap time for my littler ones but they have a bit of "independant play" in the mornings while the older two are doing lessons with me. Like you, I know people who disagree with me but that's ok lol. Oh girl I agree with you! A bit of time alone does not harm a child (in a safe environment of course). We started “quiet time” when ours came home from the hospital. It was the same time every day. My son is now 8 and doesn’t even flinch when I say “it’s quiet time” – he heads to his room for the allotted time to read or play quietly. My 6 year old is the same. Now my 3 and 1 year olds still object but they generally get over it in a matter of minutes lol.

I don’t know how moms do it without their kids being able to play alone. Quiet time is typically nap time for my littler ones but they have a bit of “independant play” in the mornings while the older two are doing lessons with me.

Like you, I know people who disagree with me but that’s ok lol.

]]> By: lucyplusfour http://heatherivester.com/2006/01/28/time-out-for-moms-babies/comment-page-1/#comment-245 lucyplusfour Sun, 29 Jan 2006 03:48:34 +0000 http://mom2momconnection.com/?p=218#comment-245 I loved the playpen (way back when) and it was great for my daughter to develop that skill to play without mom for awhile(even if it was just 15 min). I am in full agreement for what you did. :) Blessings Suzi I loved the playpen (way back when) and it was great for my daughter to develop that skill to play without mom for awhile(even if it was just 15 min). I am in full agreement for what you did. :)

Blessings

Suzi

]]> By: Karen Calla http://heatherivester.com/2006/01/28/time-out-for-moms-babies/comment-page-1/#comment-244 Karen Calla Sun, 29 Jan 2006 03:41:46 +0000 http://mom2momconnection.com/?p=218#comment-244 My baby girl is now 15. I too used a playpen. Of course...I may be biased, but I have the most wonderful daughter in the WHOLE world! (Today she came in 2nd in a French Declamation contest and gets to go to Anchorage for state!! We are a happy family tonight!) Back to my *comment*: I was a SAHM and the best thing I could do for my daughter...was take time for my own sanity and sometimes that meant 15 minutes for MOM. I *taught* my child to play by herself and to this day...give her something to read or make and she's on a roll and content. She likes being with *herself*. Her brother is 7 years older so she's basically been raised as an only child. And yes I spoiled her rotten...I layed down with her EVERY nap she ever took! I was SO much more relaxed with my second child! LOL Fortunately my son (22) turned out great too and forgave me for my *disciplinarian ways*. I think you are doing a great job! Every child is different, parents need to pray for what is *right* with each child. Playpens and *quiet* time can be used effectively! Now that mine's 15 and still following me around...chatterbox...I use the bathroom for MY playpen! LOL What a blessing to be a Mom. And God doesn't expect perfection either. My baby girl is now 15. I too used a playpen. Of course…I may be biased, but I have the most wonderful daughter in the WHOLE world! (Today she came in 2nd in a French Declamation contest and gets to go to Anchorage for state!! We are a happy family tonight!)

Back to my *comment*: I was a SAHM and the best thing I could do for my daughter…was take time for my own sanity and sometimes that meant 15 minutes for MOM.

I *taught* my child to play by herself and to this day…give her something to read or make and she’s on a roll and content. She likes being with *herself*. Her brother is 7 years older so she’s basically been raised as an only child.
And yes I spoiled her rotten…I layed down with her EVERY nap she ever took! I was SO much more relaxed with my second child! LOL

Fortunately my son (22) turned out great too and forgave me for my *disciplinarian ways*.

I think you are doing a great job! Every child is different, parents need to pray for what is *right* with each child.

Playpens and *quiet* time can be used effectively! Now that mine’s 15 and still following me around…chatterbox…I use the bathroom for MY playpen! LOL

What a blessing to be a Mom. And God doesn’t expect perfection either.

]]> By: Heather http://heatherivester.com/2006/01/28/time-out-for-moms-babies/comment-page-1/#comment-243 Heather Sat, 28 Jan 2006 22:33:35 +0000 http://mom2momconnection.com/?p=218#comment-243 I'm so glad La Shawn sent you my way, and I've connected you to the FlyLady. I think about half of my readers have arrived here from La Shawn -- what a blessing! Thanks for reminding me that the sacrifices I've made to stay home are worth it. Best wishes for a new addition to your family. I’m so glad La Shawn sent you my way, and I’ve connected you to the FlyLady. I think about half of my readers have arrived here from La Shawn — what a blessing! Thanks for reminding me that the sacrifices I’ve made to stay home are worth it. Best wishes for a new addition to your family.

]]> By: Spring http://heatherivester.com/2006/01/28/time-out-for-moms-babies/comment-page-1/#comment-242 Spring Sat, 28 Jan 2006 14:38:25 +0000 http://mom2momconnection.com/?p=218#comment-242 It seems to me you chose the sensible option. I'm of the opinion that most child rearing advice available today is backlash for the guilty feeling moms get for dumping their babies in Daycare: You're away from them all day long so naturally you have to hold on to them the few precious hours you are around. That is if you're home from work before they're asleep. It's a bit of a soapbox of mine and completely off the topic but sometimes I get a bee in my bonnet. I understand that some moms absolutely have to work. But I've noticed that the majority, with some easy adjustments to their lifestyle and spending habits, could stay home with their children if they chose. It's only for a few years, I don't see the sacrifice. As you know, every child is different and what works for one won't necessarily work for the other. My eldest was fine in a playpen. My youngest wasn't so happy about it. I adapted and figured out what she was happy with (mostly nursing). We're thinking of having another so perhaps we'll get to discover another beautiful personality later this year or early 2007. A playpen will be on our list if we do have another - We got rid of all our baby stuff after our littlest so we'll have to start all over again. (I came to your site from a recommendation of LaShawn Barber and through you discovered the FLY Ladies. Thank you! My house looks much better now. Though I still won't wear shoes. *grin*) It seems to me you chose the sensible option. I’m of the opinion that most child rearing advice available today is backlash for the guilty feeling moms get for dumping their babies in Daycare: You’re away from them all day long so naturally you have to hold on to them the few precious hours you are around. That is if you’re home from work before they’re asleep.

It’s a bit of a soapbox of mine and completely off the topic but sometimes I get a bee in my bonnet. I understand that some moms absolutely have to work. But I’ve noticed that the majority, with some easy adjustments to their lifestyle and spending habits, could stay home with their children if they chose. It’s only for a few years, I don’t see the sacrifice.

As you know, every child is different and what works for one won’t necessarily work for the other. My eldest was fine in a playpen. My youngest wasn’t so happy about it. I adapted and figured out what she was happy with (mostly nursing). We’re thinking of having another so perhaps we’ll get to discover another beautiful personality later this year or early 2007. A playpen will be on our list if we do have another – We got rid of all our baby stuff after our littlest so we’ll have to start all over again.

(I came to your site from a recommendation of LaShawn Barber and through you discovered the FLY Ladies. Thank you! My house looks much better now. Though I still won’t wear shoes. *grin*)

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